Is the game still winnable for me?

Important question to answer.

A better question is, “Where do I start?”

Where do YOU start?

The fact that you asked the question, “Is the game still winnable for me?” tells me that you are still in the game.

And you still have the desire to win.

When you ask that question, you may be at the end of your rope. . .

. . . but you still have a glimmer of hope.

So, yes, the game is still winnable for you.

Ask, “Where do I start?”

Start with A QUICK and EASY WIN

Start by defining the game. What game do you want to win?

Then create a small, achievable, quick and easy win.

WANNA WRITE THAT BOOK?

For example, want to write that book? Finally?

Start by writing just 100 words. Today.

Write in a notebook. Write in Microsoft Word.

Write in One Note on your phone. Anywhere. Just start writing today.

You don’t know what to write? Just start writing. . .

Write “I don’t know what to write. I really don’t know what to write. But I’m gonna write anyway.”

And keep going until you have your first one hundred words written.

And then write 100 words tomorrow. And again.

Just start today. To get back in the game.

WANNA GET FIT? AGAIN?

Start today. Walk around the block.

Tomorrow walk around the block plus one mailbox.

The next day. Do the same plus TWO (2) mailboxes.

The game is winnable. Get back in the game.

And the first step is to answer the question, “Where do I start?”

Then start. Now.

Right here. And right now.

Nothing matters today EXCEPT. . .

START!

Wait. There’s ONE MORE thing.

MICRO-CELEBRATION

Celebrate the mini-victory of starting.

Celebrate that mini-win by . . .?

My NEW Mouse Pad?

Recently I was stuck on a goal and got unstuck with a mini-win.

I celebrated with a mini-reward.

A new mouse pad. Don’t laugh.

From Amazon Prime for $4.79.

My new upgraded mouse pad is a daily, minute-by-minute reminder of my mini-win.

Does this seem ridiculous to you?

It’s not. It works.

Your MINI-WIN is so POWER-FULL

It was my mini-win with a mini-celebration.

And it FEELS SO POWER-FULL.

Quick Review

Three Simple Steps.

(1) – Create a Mini-Game to Win.

(2) – Win that Mini-Game.

(3) – Celebrate with a Mini-Reward.

Start Stacking

Then start stacking these mini-wins on top of each other.

It works.

Right now I’m admiring my NEW mouse pad.

And feeling gOOd.

Fear has killed more dreams that failure ever will.

Fear is subtle. Sneaky, cunning.

Disguised as your ego and criticism.

And your little fears sabotage your success every day. Sometimes you don’t know it.

Have you ever said (or thought) “I’m not comfortable with that.”

Or have you ever been trying to help someone and heard that comment?

I’M NOT COMFORTABLE

I heard that phrase just this week from a client. “I’m not comfortable with that.”

And I thought my head would explode with anger. It was an immediate internal response.

And I had to pause to reflect. Pause to catch my breath before I exploded.

THE COACH-ABLE MOMENT

I realized that is exactly what I want to hear as a coach.

This is the moment.

The critical “coach-able moment” that a coach desires and the moment that the student must have to grow.

This is a defining moment. The moment to learn and grow.

If the student does not reach that place of being uncomfortable, how will they ever grow?

You need to think “I’m not comfortable with that” to grow.

And when your student says, “I’m not comfortable with that,” they just gave you a key indicator to pause and reflect to face an unknown fear.

FACE YOUR FEAR

Without fear and discomfort, how can one grow?

When is the last time you said to yourself, “I’m not comfortable with that?”

I’m NOT talking about crossing a moral line. I am talking about crossing a line where you get to face your fear.

EMBRACE YOUR FEAR

Most fears I have are related to my ego. That dreaded fear of taking a risk with my ego and being criticized.

But that is where growth is. And that is where your true uniqueness, your true genius lies. Inside of that fear and slightly beyond that fear.

“I’m not comfortable with that” could be golden words to you. As a student. AND as a coach.

COURAGE IS TAKING RISKS

. . . in spite of feeling the fear.

Do not mistake courage as the absence of fear. Rather courage is feeling the fear and doing it anyway.

And a fulfilling life is living in those fears and taking risks and walking through those fears often. And failing often.

Those successful people that you admire have failed many more times than you. And have made a habit of walking through their fears. Often. Daily.

DARING GREATLY

Those successful people that you admire have many more critics than you. And they are living lives of “daring greatly.”

The next time you think, “I’m not comfortable with that.” Treasure that thought and that yucky feeling, because you are at a defining moment in your life. And that fear is friend sent by your creator to help you grow.

The solution is in your struggle.

The answer is in the problem.

Your growth is in the middle of your discomfort and on the other side of fear.

I’M GLAD I DID.

Do not end your life saying,

“I wish I had.”

Instead end this day saying,

“I’m glad I did.”

Why?

Because fear has killed more dreams than failure ever will.