Your readers are NOT readers. Anymore. Yep !! They ARE scaNNers.
Watch your 11-year-old daughter or granddaughter. Does she really actually READ anything anymore? Except when required for school? Continue reading Your Readers Are Impatient
Then hire a coach. “But, but, but…” you whimper. “How? And why?”
…and you know you’ve been stuck for a while. That’s a good enough reason to hire a coach. Just to get unstuck and to start moving forward on that important life goal. You will do this when your WHY is bigger than your fears. Like your fears of sharing your innermost dreams. And your fear of being criticized.
Grow up. Hire a coach. Get unstuck.
Just ask someone, “Will you coach me?” I found someone who has good listening skills, tutors math students, and coaches soccer and basketball. He has similar life values. That’s what I wanted. Someone skilled in coaching. Who can give me candid input and help me to move forward.
Not just whenever. Things that matter get scheduled. And things that get scheduled get done. My coach and I meet at 6:00 a.m. on Friday (yes, at Panera Bread). Non-negotiable. Once the time is set, no excuses. If I do not show, he can fire me as a client. If my coach does not show at our scheduled time, my coach is fired. Simple. Both parties are serious and committed.
“Now this gets tricky,” you moan. Not tricky at all. I am paying a friend to coach me. Yes, PAYING a friend with REAL money. Without this exchange of money, there is not enough commitment for me to reach my goals and to follow his suggestions.
If you have zero money, then exchange something of VALUE. Exchange professional services. For example, trade internet skills or web design skills for personal coaching. Trade babysitting time for coaching time. Run personal errands as a trade for personal coaching. Why not? That is something that has real monetary value.
…and a time frame to review the coaching process. My coach and I exchanged our written expectations via EVERnote. And we have a specific number of coaching sessions SCHEDULED and paid IN ADVANCE. At the end of a specific number of sessions, we have a plan to review our progress to see if and how we want to continue. A coaching (mentorship) relationship does NOT have to last forever to work.
Now you know the four critical steps to hiring a coach.
I’m not suck anymore. How ‘bout you?
here they are. four simple steps.
and it takes just four minutes to read.
so put on your hazmat suit. and let’s go.
be the guy behind the mask.
detox by deleting toxic people. simple. but not easy. you will need to exit some of your toxic friends who bring that unwanted drama to your life.
delete the drama on facebook (and other social media). delete the crazy and loud friends on your social media. delete the crazy political rants and links and liked pages. this is directly within your control.
this week i deleted 41 unwanted, unsolicited groups from my facebook page. it felt so good.
delete toxic friends. and delete people who do not support your value system. you don’t owe anything to them. you don’t have to listen to them.
avoid the anger. stop the drama before it starts. avoid the depression that comes after those resentments. delete toxic people.
delete, delete. and delete some more.
delete those people who take you to places you do not want to go. including physical places, bad places in your mind, emotional places that you don’t want to visit. you get the idea.
these toxic people are emotional black holes for you. delete them.
if your friends do not support your goals and core values, delete them. delete these toxic people from your life. simple, not easy.
delete toxic friends. this is within your control. and is a tremendous time-saver for you. this frees time for you. this creates some positive mental (and spiritual) space for you. and you will sleep much better.
add just ten minutes of exercise to your life every day. studies show this has health and emotional benefits.
a recent study showed “adding 10 minutes of mall-pace striding per day resulted in significantly improved heart strength and general fitness. then it becomes easier to increase your workout time and improve your physical fitness. ”
I do this by using my fitbit. the alarm sounds 10 minutes before the hour every hour between 6:00 a.m. and noon. so I get more than “ten minutes more.” adding ten minutes of exercise every day detoxifies your physical body.
become the Original you again.
discover the Original you again by creating some new habits (not resolutions, not goals) and dropping those bad habits.
let’s start with your “fat” screen. I call it the “fat” screen (and not the flat screen) because this “fat” screen is where you and your family get fat.
detoxify yourself from your addictive binges. to find the Original you, drop those bad habits. like your addictive Netflix binges (zombie movies, house of cards), Facebook binges.
and running down “rabbit holes” chasing those “click bait” articles on your phone.
and drop all of those hours playing that NBA game. or Call of Duty, Doom, or whatever game.
you sit in front of your “fat” screen, eat, binge, and train your children to do the same. we all do too much of this. time wasted in front of some electronic device. turning your mind and body into jello.
watch a few minutes (3:24) of fit-LESS humans (Pixar WALL-E). and see for yourself. what “fat screens” are doing to you. your “fat screens” are killing you.
…with TEDTalks. something that will feed your mind and your soul. something that is worthy of you and will challenge you.
listen and learn from the thought leaders of the world.
I asking you: what “zombie principle” learned from watching NetFlix (Walking Dead) have you used this week in your business or raising children?
start a habit of watching (listening to) TEDTalks and some valuable documentaries on Netflix, amazon video, or other video service.
here’s an idea called TEDTalk and Walk. listen to TEDTalks on your phone while you’re walking. and getting your ten more minutes of exercise.
this is your choice to detoxify your brain. all within your direct control. simple, but not easy. but you’re reading this because you want to change.
you want to re-discover you. the Original you. the Original you that your creator wants you to be. not some one else’s version of you created by your “fat screen” binges.
I understand the pain in changing. this is a painful change for me, too. let me be your guide, and your fellow journeyer – walking beside you.
share this with a friend and make this change together.
your children and your grandchildren (nieces and nephews) deserve a better you. and an Original you. you deserve this. you’re worth the change.
X = the “X” factor.
find a real hard-nosed spiritual trainer. a trainer that will not tolerate your whining. not a “comfort dog” spiritual trainer that promises you a safe place when you’re under stress. but someone who can move you forward spiritually.
someone who has the courage (and someone you allow to) let you see the real you. someone who allows you to feel the pain. and show you some ugly truths about your life.
if you really want to detoxify your life, you will find a spiritual trainer. this is the “X” factor that people at the top of their game have.
everyone that I respect is using this “X” factor.
and you can complement your “X” factor with a phone app that provides spiritual resources. and while you’re at it. delete some of those other time-wasting game apps on your phone. if you want to detoxify your life in 2018.
get the “X” factor. detoxify your life in 2018.
here are some questions to ask dad, or your grandpa.
why? it will be fun.
and enlightening, and…
because someday you will say
I wish I had
– or –
I’m glad I did.
which will it be for you?
i want it to be “I’m glad I did.”
here’s the challenge. ask your father one of these questions.
or ask more than one question.
keep your video under 5 minutes.
but have the courage to do this via Facebook LIVE and share.
remember some day you will say either
I wish I had
– or –
I’m glad I did.
have some fun. if you thought of some more great questions (i know ya did), please write them in the comments below.
What will “they” say?
I mean. At your funeral, what will “they” say?
What is the real stuff about you that they will say?
Wow ! What a topic? This scares me just thinking about it?
Keep reading though. It’s worth it. (less than 3 minutes to go)
Are you a little scared thinking about this?
This is where the sh** gets real.
Here’s the familiar scene. After your funeral service, when everyone is drinking punch. After the service where everyone has said what they thought they were suppose to say about you. You know, all of those overly polite comments that only highlight the best moments of your life.
… after all of those very polite comments. There is a another scene. It’s a familiar scene, too.
Enter the church ladies with those delicious bite-sized ham and cheese sandwiches. While everyone is drinking punch and snacking from the cookie trays, you can hear the chatter. The real stuff.
What will people REALLY say?
About you? About how they remember you?
What’s the real sh** they will say about you?
What will your children, your grandchildren, your friends say?
Your grandchildren may say, “I remember when grandpa … ?”
Your children will say, “Dad always made me feel … ?”
But…
… your son whispers to his favorite uncle, “Dad was always playing a video game when I got home from school. And I really wanted to go in the backyard and play catch. I sure wish he had…”
Now YOU finish that sentence.
This chatter AFTER your funeral service…
This is your REAL legacy.
Now that you know…
Today is the time to Man Up. And Woman Up.
These comments are your REAL LEGACY. And none of it is about money. Nor your job title. Not your cool car.
Or the motor home, the lake house. Or working on the weekends.
Or working late on Friday nights.
This scares me just writing this. Because I’ve lived much of my life pursuing the wrong stuff.
If you knew what they were really going to say, would you want to hear it? Maybe not. Scary, huh?
If you knew what they are going to say, would you live today differently?
I know I would.
If you could be there and hear the comments, you would be thinking, “I’m glad I did.” Or “I wish I had.”
Will you have more “I’m glad I did” thoughts?
Or will you have more “I wish I had” thoughts?
Someday you will say, “I wish I had.” Or “I’m glad I did.”
Well, now that I have ruined your day. Keep reading. We’re almost done talking.
What can you do RIGHT NOW to change these discussions about “what they will say.”
These comments are your legacy. Not your career. Not the summer house and the boat.
Let me leave you with this one thought.
Remember all those things you said you were going to do.
You should go do them.
This is America’s Grumpiest Grandpa,
bringing you what you NEED to hear
not just what you WANT to hear.
